101% Principle: Find the 1% we agree on & give it 100% of our effort

If two men on the same job agree all the time, then one is useless. If they disagree all the time, then both are useless. ~ Darryl F. Zanuck

THE QUESTION I MUST ASK MYSELF: Can I find common ground, & will I give it 100% of my effort?

WHEN TO PRACTICE THE 101% PRINCIPLE
1) Is the Person Worth the Commitment?
             § Every person has worth, but you can't give every person the time or energy that the 101% Principle requires
     § So who is "worthy" of this kind of attention?
□ The list begins with your spouse if you're married
   □ Add your family members to the list
□ If you own a business & have partners, they must be included
□ Add your friends
□ Beyond that circle, use your judgment
     § If there's good potential for a mutually rewarding relationship & you can afford to expend the energy, then you might want to give the 101% Principle a try when you find it difficult to agree.
2) Is the Situation Worth the Commitment?
     § Most situations where disagreements occur are short-term
     § Save your energy for scenarios where your expenditure of time & attention will have a long-term return.
3) Is the Issue Worth the Commitment?
     § When an issue touches on a priority in your life or impacts one of your values use this principle
    § "In necessary things, unity; in doubtful things, liberty; in all things, charity" ~ Richard Baxter
4) Is the Return Worth the Commitment?

A 101% RETURN - Practicing the 101% Principle can benefit you in many ways
1) It Allows You to Build a Foundation for Change
§ If you're in a relationship where you want to influence someone & change the way he sees/does something, then you shouldn't try to initiate the change in an area where you disagree.
§ Change always begins with common ground
2) It Prevents Unnecessary Conflict
§ It's hard to argue with people when they're right
§ When you focus on the area when you agree with someone else, you are on safe ground.
3) It Reduces the Odds of Making Enemies
§ "He who has a thousand friends has not a friend to spare, while he who has one enemy will meet him everywhere" ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
§ Even one enemy in life is more than we would care to have
4) It Keeps Something of Value That Could Otherwise Be Lost
5) It Helps You to Feel Good About Your Part of the Relationship
6) It Enables You to Make the Best of Difficult Situations

Image: An Agreement by YuYuchan